The nurse practitioner makes you cry.
My old OB moved to Florida about a year before I got pregnant, so I started going to a new practice that came highly recommended from a number of people. I was told to expect long wait times because the doctors really take their time with you, they're so caring and blah blah blah. Well, I'm not sure who everyone has seen or where those caring doctors went, but I have yet to meet them.
At one of my earlier appointments (and I probably should have considered leaving at this point but what did I know?) I had written down a list of questions. As soon as I took out my list, the doctor looked at me like "oh God, here we go" (I thought maybe I was being overly sensitive) but I skipped around on my list and only asked [what I thought were] the important questions: what is the C-Section rate, episiotomy rate, and a couple of others. The doctor told me that I was way ahead of myself and she'd see me in a month. Alright then.
Fast forward to last month's appointment. I had started seeing a different doctor because the first one never so much as laid a hand on me (I'm honestly not sure if they're supposed to, but according to my pregnant friends they normally do feel for fundal height and swelling of the legs and feet which the new doctor did). At this point in time, I had started reading about birth plans. I wasn't exactly sure what they were, so I consulted with Dr. Google (I know, I know) and for the most part, their not something I'm really interested in: dimming the lights, soft music, and other hippy-dippy things to do during labor. My birth plan is as follows: say no to an induction, yes to an epidural, and do whatever the doctor/nurses tell me to do to ensure that my baby comes out in one piece.
Either way, I brought this up to my OB and her response was, "ugh ::eye roll:: do you know what 'birth plan' means to an OB?" Um, no. No I didn't but judging by your reaction I guess it's a stupid question. I shouldn't feel uncomfortable talking to my doctor and the bottom line is that at this practice, I do.
So back to this gem of a NP. I tried to explain this to her yesterday along with the fact that no doctor has ever spoken to me about pap results, anatomy scan results, or a subchorionic hemorrhage that had been detected in the very beginning of my pregnancy. Apparently, it is my responsibility to follow up on these things. I should be telling the doctors and sono techs what they should be looking at/for. Seriously? She was yet another person in this practice that made me feel like a total moron. She called the head doctor who wants to see me today and go over my chart from top to bottom and make sure I don't have any outstanding questions. I will be asking for a copy of my chart and making an appointment elsewhere.
I am officially in my third trimester, and I don't think that now is the time to be afraid of asking questions. Hopefully I can hold it together and not cry in his office today. Talk about uncomfortable but yesterday I just couldn't help it! Stupid hormones.
Showing posts with label professionalism. Show all posts
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Wednesday, February 5, 2014
Friday, January 24, 2014
Where is my Mary Poppins?
During my anxiety-ridden week (if you haven't read my last post, this is the week my husband brought up daycare and I had a total meltdown), I had posted an angry Facebook status about how much I hate living in an area where I will be forced to allow strangers to raise my kids because it's too expensive to do otherwise.
After I had calmed down, my mother-in-law told me that she had been hurt by my post because it seemed like I felt that she wasn't good enough to watch our daughter. Actually, I had never thought to ask her because I simply didn't think it was something she would agree to. She also has a history of being unreliable. Well, since she was in fact interested, I was thrilled. If she was willing to commit, I'd much prefer to have our daughter taken care of by her grandmother as opposed to strangers. And then it started.
It started with her saying that she couldn't commit to five days a week (totally understandable) but instead would commit to two or three days. No problem. I will absolutely find someone to watch the baby the remaining two or three days. Then, earlier this week, my husband casually told someone that his mother was willing to watch the baby one, maybe two days a week. Alright then. Good thing she told this to my husband who rarely remembers to relay the messages to me. I can't say I'm surprised - this is the kind of thing I expected and the primary reason why I didn't consider her in the first place. So now the hunt is on for a full-time nanny as opposed to a part-time nanny. I figured it might not be so bad. I mean, I "nannied" throughout college and I was great! I actually played with the kids, took them to the park, and really enjoyed them. Surely I can't be the only one. But how do I go about finding someone like myself?
My husband came home with the idea of using Care.com after hearing about it from his co-workers. I had seen the commercials but never really thought much of it. But hey, I'm open so let's give it a try. I placed the following ad:
All I can say is Wow to the responses we have gotten. There was only one good one - ONE! And I think she must have misread the timeframe because she never responded back about setting up an interview. Now, keep in mind that I am a high school English teacher. I deal with kids not reading or following instructions and correcting grammar, spelling, and other mechanics on a daily basis. I should not have to worry about these issues with an adult who is going to be caring for my child. However, I found that if I printed out these "applications", the life span of my red pen would be very short lived.
To respond to a few of these applicants so you can have an idea of what I'm dealing with:
1) No, I will not drop my daughter off at your house. Please note that the ad says "in our home only".
2) No, you cannot bring your child(ren) to my house while you are being paid to watch my child.
3) What is an assco degree?
4) "I" should always be capitalized.
5) Punctuation is your friend.
6) No, I will not draw up a "nanny contract".
7) No matter what you say I'm paying for, $20 an hour is not going to happen.
8) Just leaving your name and number is not going to get me to call you.
9) If you don't have a picture up, I'm curious as to why. And if I have to be curious, I will be worried and therefore, you will not be considered. I need to see that you're somewhat normal looking.
10) If you're 20 and have been working full-time in the local mall for the last two years and are looking to make some extra money to help out your live-in boyfriend and his kid, then no. I don't think that this is a perfect fit for you.
That's all I've got for now. But seriously........where is my Mary Poppins? Maybe I'll revise my ad to say just that: Professional Couple seeks modern day Mary Poppins for infant daughter. Hell - if these people can respond to ads and sound like complete morons, why can't I post an ad and sound like I mean business? Hmmm.......
After I had calmed down, my mother-in-law told me that she had been hurt by my post because it seemed like I felt that she wasn't good enough to watch our daughter. Actually, I had never thought to ask her because I simply didn't think it was something she would agree to. She also has a history of being unreliable. Well, since she was in fact interested, I was thrilled. If she was willing to commit, I'd much prefer to have our daughter taken care of by her grandmother as opposed to strangers. And then it started.
It started with her saying that she couldn't commit to five days a week (totally understandable) but instead would commit to two or three days. No problem. I will absolutely find someone to watch the baby the remaining two or three days. Then, earlier this week, my husband casually told someone that his mother was willing to watch the baby one, maybe two days a week. Alright then. Good thing she told this to my husband who rarely remembers to relay the messages to me. I can't say I'm surprised - this is the kind of thing I expected and the primary reason why I didn't consider her in the first place. So now the hunt is on for a full-time nanny as opposed to a part-time nanny. I figured it might not be so bad. I mean, I "nannied" throughout college and I was great! I actually played with the kids, took them to the park, and really enjoyed them. Surely I can't be the only one. But how do I go about finding someone like myself?
My husband came home with the idea of using Care.com after hearing about it from his co-workers. I had seen the commercials but never really thought much of it. But hey, I'm open so let's give it a try. I placed the following ad:
We are looking for a caring, mature, intelligent, and responsible nanny to care for our infant daughter 2-3 days per week for a maximum of eight (8) hours beginning in the Fall of 2014 in our home only. Days are listed as Monday, Wednesday and Friday, but are flexible.
Experience, references and appropriate immunizations are a must.
Experience, references and appropriate immunizations are a must.
We're looking for:
- Non-smoker
- Comfortable with pets
- Has a car
To respond to a few of these applicants so you can have an idea of what I'm dealing with:
1) No, I will not drop my daughter off at your house. Please note that the ad says "in our home only".
2) No, you cannot bring your child(ren) to my house while you are being paid to watch my child.
3) What is an assco degree?
4) "I" should always be capitalized.
5) Punctuation is your friend.
6) No, I will not draw up a "nanny contract".
7) No matter what you say I'm paying for, $20 an hour is not going to happen.
8) Just leaving your name and number is not going to get me to call you.
9) If you don't have a picture up, I'm curious as to why. And if I have to be curious, I will be worried and therefore, you will not be considered. I need to see that you're somewhat normal looking.
10) If you're 20 and have been working full-time in the local mall for the last two years and are looking to make some extra money to help out your live-in boyfriend and his kid, then no. I don't think that this is a perfect fit for you.
That's all I've got for now. But seriously........where is my Mary Poppins? Maybe I'll revise my ad to say just that: Professional Couple seeks modern day Mary Poppins for infant daughter. Hell - if these people can respond to ads and sound like complete morons, why can't I post an ad and sound like I mean business? Hmmm.......
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